I was sharing these thoughts w/ Bill tonight and thought I would post them here just to see if they would generate some thoughts/comments from others.
I had shared w/ him last night how my best friend had confided in me that over the weekend her husband of 20+ years had said some pretty hurtful things to her. He made these comments w/ no apparent reason, other than he was in a bad mood (my opinion).
I commented to Bill how it is sad that we meet someone and form a friendship, which leads to love and a relationship. We decide to marry that person and spend our life w/ that person. We make vows and promises to one another that we will always love, honor, and cherish each other. But, yet, years (or maybe even months) down the road, we find ourselves saying hurtful things to one another. We find ourselves taking the one person we supposedly love beyond measure and treating that person w/ little, if any respect. Or, maybe we find ourselves being on the receiving end of those hurtful words and actions.
Why? Why do we do that? Why do we allow something we should hold so dear to our hearts become something we take for granted? And, how do we keep that from happening? What do we do?
For those of you that have moved on to new relationships, what do you do differently now to keep from making the same mistakes you made before? Do you feel you are more conscious of your words and actions? (I know I am!) What do you do to keep the "flames" burning in your new relationship?
