untying a few knots #9

[Amy M]

Good job!!! I'm glad you didn't talk much to her. I'm glad you let her do the talking, and I'm glad you didn't talk to H about it. He doesn't need to know what was said...let him sweat that a little!

And, like I said to someone (maybe it was you!!) the other day, you have to decide if you can live with their past or not. If you decide to live with it, you are going to have to let it all go. All of it...who cares what day they had sex last...as long as they don't do it again? I also don't think it matters who told who what, etc. in the past. Personally, I think any more meeting about it...you and her or all 3 of you will serve no real purpose...they might both lie still. And, it will possibly only hurt you more.

I'd say, it was huge that he took you there tonight. That was the boundary you set, he stuck to it. That was huge!!! He sent her a pretty powerful message tonight by showing up with you. Now, he will have to continue to stay within the boundaries you have set. I think you should give him a chance to do that.

That's just me...Babygirl! You know you have to do what's right for you and the kids!

Love you!!!!

Amy