God grant me the patience and the strength...9

[theotherhalf]

Why is that not abuse to you

I agree that it isn't right. Ever. But I have never have been abused. By my H anyway.

Is that what you are teaching your daughters, that violence is ok as long as you can get away with it?

I wish you could ask my D17 and N14 this question. They would tell you absolutely not! Violence is not okay. And never said I wished I would have gotten away with it. I commited a crime, broke the law and deserved to be punished for that. But I did not commit Burglary.

He stayed with OW. He did nothing to help you.

H did not stay with OW. He left as soon as I knocked on the door. If you mean after the fact. I am no so sure that he didn't do this to smooth her over so that they'd go light on me. Because as soon as court was over, they were done. In his mind, that is how he helped me. And money wise too.

Sorry, don't believe you.

lwb, I don't lie. I swear to you on my life. But it really doesn't matter what you believe, I and God know what happened that night. He knows why it happened and how. That is all that really matters.