Working on a friendship

[Belle]

Interesting situation today.....

Yesterday when I talked to H he said he would clean the sidewalks from snow for me b/c my back is sore. I said OK. Then he calls me again at 10:30pm - I was sleeping. He left a message to let me know that he would clean the sidewalk, and not to do it - he knows I get anxious when there's something to be done. ??? Was wondering why he called again since he already told me he'd do it, and then to call so late.....

Anyway, so he had a big test today and so I called around noon to ask him how it went. He called me back around 1pm, and he was done with the shoveling. He was in a BAD mood. Didn't do well on his test. This is the class he failed last trimester. He proceeded to (almost) yell and b1tch and complain how the teacher sucks and he's going to tell him off. He said he's going to be a big d1ck from now on, because being a nice guy gets him nowhere.

On and on and on.

I just listen and kind of laugh and tell him "You know that's not true, being a d1ck isn't going to get you anywhere"

So he told me he doesn't want to talk anymore so he's going to be a d1ck and hang up. I say ok, bye and hang up.

I went back to stressing about my laser eye surgery b/c they told me today i have dry eyes.....

So then I get home and there is a note on the kitchen counter - "Sorry I was grumpy today. Do you have an extra phone? If you do can you leave it on the counter - I will get it tomorrow. Mine broke. Love, H"

Broke?

Ha!

More like you had a temper tantrum like the 5 year old you're acting like and destroyed it?????

So then I tried to call him. As I was going to leave a message, that little devil on my shoulder told me to check his voicemail. (I know the code). So there was 3 messages from OW around 2:30pm, evidently she hung up on him. "Sorry I hung up on you but I was tired of your bad attitude and tired of being screamed at and you need an attitude check."

And then "Please pick up your phone, I'm worried about you"

And then "I was wondering if you were coming over here, if you're not I'm coming over there."

My guess is that he was on the phone with her and got so angry when she hung up on him that he threw the phone and broke it.

Since I still don't know what the heck is going on with them, I don't like the fact that it sounds like they study together a lot. (From some other things she said)

I'm not living in denial, there's probably a lot that's gone on that I would shudder over. I guess I just hoped that things had cooled off somewhat with them.

I think I played it pretty well, I don't think he likes someone to argue back, just to listen to him rant and rave.

This whole situation makes me glad that he is not in this house. 2 more years of this (school)??? How dreadful.

My life has been pretty peaceful since he left.......

It's a weird thing when you feel like life is looking better without him. It's not like this is an isolated incident. This attitude of his has been so ugly lately......

I told him that counseling may help him with it, but he quit going....