Originally Posted By: AmyC
You decide, man.

Not her.

This is YOUR life.

Well said, Amy.
Perhaps I'll add, often the 'real' sitch is not nearly as daunting as the 'imaginary' one we project could happen.
Jeff, what do you have to lose, really?
Stop.
Think of what you stand to gain.
Do you love W? Or just being married?

My sitch changed when I stopped being afraid.

Glad the S20 VA thing worked itself out. Peace.