All of this makes me think that she still doesn't know what to do with the "guy" attention (not just from me, I'm sure), it might still be overwhelming to her? But she does still seek out my words of affirmation (both in her work achievements as well as her looks). With those actions, would she be trying to see if I am still consistent and trying to convince herself that my words are genuine? Could the "thanks" responses be an indication that she's starting to realize that maybe I was being honest before with my compliments about her looks?
Could be that she's trying to see if you're consistent. It seems like she wants you to know how much weight she's lost, since she keeps telling you her weight and she wants you to know what size she is wearing. Keep complimenting her when she does that, and even when she doesn't. When I tell my H about something like that, it's because I'm proud of myself and I want him to notice my accomplishment. I want him to be proud of me, too. I don't know if that's how your wife feels, I can't read her mind (neither can you), but I might venture to guess it is.
As far as not knowing how to handle guy attention, I can only say that for myself, I don't even know what that is anymore! So, if I found myself in the position of having guys take notice of me, I certainly would not know how to handle it. I'd have to re-learn that whole "scene".
Me: 38 H: 41 M: 12 D12, S10 H began EA: 7/08 H moved out: 9/30/08 Bomb (sleeping with OW): 10/23/08
My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1638048&page=2#Post1638048
