Hold off on the boundary talk for another day. Your W's mind is not running on all gears today.
Talk to a lawyer, but I am pretty sure that since she has left the house, you have a good chance of staying with it.
The boundary talk has been done. she knows she doesn't live here and has no moral right to act as if she does.
She even asked me if it was still ok for her to wash her massage sheets on Thursdays when she's here for the evening. I told her that was fine. The boundary has been set.
I'm not worried about the house. It would cause us great hardship to live separately and the house is below the mortgage value so selling is not an option. She COULD move back in any time since she is 1/2 owner. She won't though. she's afraid and ashamed.
As well you shouldn't LET her.
I worry about your seeming willingness to settle should you be given the chance.
I hope you understand that I will hope you aren't.
