Our school district (Parkway) has the Harmony Club. The counselor meets once a week with similar age kids going through separation and divorce. They play games, talk, do whatever. My D6 doesn't want to join right now, but you could see if they offer it up for your kiddos.
Jeff, Karen and I are watching Hancock at 7pm our time if you are up for it. There is some cursing...don't know how you are about that with your kids. We will get together on one of our threads and chat after.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hey Kat, I watched Hancock over a week ago when I took off a 1/2 day of work because I was sick, sorry, I didn't want to say anything and get in trouble like H4H
W took kids today to go decorate FIL christmas tree, came in the house and we had a short talk, she said I needed to find a baby sitter for New Years Eve, Something about a party, I'm thinking, how awkward that would be, especially if OM was there, but 1. W hasn't brought OM around her friends yet and 2. she knows I would never put up with being in the same room with him. (temper, temper)
We'll see how this develops, I have already been asked to a party but no single people their, can everyone say 3rd wheel I was just planning on staying home, too crazy of a night out, too many drunks on the road and I don't want to be one of them.
I'll try to check in with everyone later, I have 5 hours before kids are back
Kids put their shoes out last night, someone told them about St. Nicholas, I quickly put somethings together (candy, toys, etc) so they had something this morning The little ones D7, D7 and S5 were a little confused, never heard of t his before, but of course they were game, anything if it involved candy and toys
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 0.20
Hey wdid, I don't know if W was asking me to the new years eve party or feeling me out to find out if I was going out, she said I needed to find a babysitter for new years eve and then started talking about how her friends and her were getting together to plan a party. who knows whats going on in her head.
W was to stop by today and go though the Christmas ornaments because she has a lot of old collectors items, but when she showed up she didn't have enough time
Talked about presents for the kids and asked me if we were going to split the cost I said what happened to the $1000 I gave her earlier this year for the Christmas fund, "did you spend it already", she said oh yeah I forgot, and then she told me she would take care of the cost. The money was for the kids her dad, my mom, and several couples we spend christmas with.
She then began to tell me how busy she is and she doesn't have time to get everything done before christmas, she has to work several days this week, has tickets to the hockey game, has to drop off some stuff for her friend, stuff her friend asked her to pick up for some wedding, etc. I was thinking to myself, I'm busy too (with the kids), and your doing stuff for your friends and going to a hockey game, I didn't say anything, life is tuff on her
She asked me if I heard anything from the L, which I haven't so she said she would give her a call.
When she was leaving, she yelled down to the kids (they were playing a game on the computer in their play area downstairs) they didn't move, they just yelled back bye mom love you, she wasn't happy about that, I guess she was expecting them to come running and give her hugs and kisses, that didn't happen.
W going to take kids overnight Saturday 12/14 and drop them off Sunday morning, that should be it for the week
House is clean, laundry day, working on the end table I'm building, have to work on old lady neighbors internet connection, check my work e-mail (I'm off today because the kids are off from school today) do a little shopping S5 needs snacks for Wednesday at school because its his birthday, need to work on the tree, making meatloaf mash potatoes and some type of veggie for dinner also baths tonight
Need to get everything done by 7:00pm - I believe Charlie Brown's Christmas is on at 7:00pm CST, thought the kids would like to watch that.
Merry Christmas everyone
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 0.20
House is clean, laundry day, working on the end table I'm building, have to work on old lady neighbors internet connection, check my work e-mail (I'm off today because the kids are off from school today) do a little shopping S5 needs snacks for Wednesday at school because its his birthday, need to work on the tree, making meatloaf mash potatoes and some type of veggie for dinner also baths tonight
Yes, but your wife is terribly "busy," don'tchaknow ...
W got in touch with her L and it should all be over before the end of the year. They were concerned that my 401K has lost money and now W won't get as much $ as she expected, I just told her take out a set $ amount, that way she will get what she wants out of this D which is $
Things will change after I sign, changing the locks on the doors, W no longer welcome in my house, she can sit outside in her car and wait until the kids are ready for school or whenever she decides to pick the kids up.
I'm conflicted; I want to ask W what 2 weekends she wants the kids each month (this will cut into her party time) but it will allow me some free time to get stuff done or go out every now and then or do I just hire a babysitter and let her take them when she wants ?? (once every month)
Correction W going to take kids overnight Saturday 12/14 and drop them off Sunday morning, that should be it for the month
Merry Christmas everyone
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 0.20
Things will change after I sign, changing the locks on the doors, W no longer welcome in my house, she can sit outside in her car and wait until the kids are ready for school or whenever she decides to pick the kids up.
I think that's a wonderful idea, consequences and all that. But why wait??????
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I'm conflicted; I want to ask W what 2 weekends she wants the kids each month (this will cut into her party time) but it will allow me some free time to get stuff done or go out every now and then or do I just hire a babysitter and let her take them when she wants ?? (once every month)
I think you should do a schedule. My C recommended this even when we separated and the L says you set up a schedule as well. It's good for the kids b/c my D9 always wants to know what days she will see her dad and if you have a schedule they can see it on the schedule exactly. Also if your W is anything like my H why let them just party whenever they want and then you have to accomodate their schedule??? It's not fair to your or your kids!!! Of course that's just my opinion of course!
Merry Christmas and thanks for the heads up on Charlie Brown tonight. We watch every holiday special they have!!! Karen
