Sometimes I cannot take this place....

[Puppy Dog Tails]

(((((S&S)))))

fwiw, I think you're doing the right thing.

Puppy

[kerrysal]

Sugar..

you know I've lurked on your sitch here & there..and I wanted to offer my support. At the end of the day, sometimes we need to choose US..our children and ourselves (along w/our sanity). Addiction of any kind only adds to the stress when one party is trying alone to save a marriage. You have fought this fight with strength, determination and, above all, honor. You have shown your son it is NOT ok to treat a woman like this, and you are a model for your daughter to make better 'choices' in men than you & I did. It's been a long, tough road. I am very, very proud of you & I hope you find at least 1/2 the joy I have in reclaiming my life. Only time will show you its true reward...

Kerry

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((((((Corey))))))))))

I think you did what needed to be done. He's made it pretty clear for quite a while what his priorities are. So, now you've dropped the rope, and he knows it.

Don't be a stranger!

[whatdidido]

Sugar,

I'm so sorry. You can't make him come back to the marriage. You stated what needs to happen, and he has not done it. He has been emotionally abusive to you. Don't let him do it anymore. Focus on yourself and the kids. Start now. I'm not sure if you have counseling already, but you should have some for yourself right now. Start focusing on your needs and continue as you always do by focusing on the kids needs.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((sugar)))))))))))))))))))))))

WDID

[Sugar and Spice]

Thanks all. Anyone who has been around for any length of time will know how hard I've fought and against everyone's best advice I continued to hold onto the rope. I know I should have listened a long time ago but I didn't and nothing will change that now.

I will get through this as I have all that has come before.

WDID I have been in counseling about this for about 10 months and she will be overjoyed I'm sure.

I do so wish things could have been different for me, but they aren't and that is something I will have to work on accepting.

I'll still be around,like some of the others, I'm not ready to move to the party that is surviving...maybe someday.

Thanks again.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

{{{{{Sugar}}}}}

What time is happy hour? What kind of drinks you serving at this pity party? wanna take bets to see how long somebody's shirt comes off? Watch out for Mike, he has been known to wear a lampshade or two.

You are going to be amazing. You are a strong, confident woman who has fought an amazing fight against some horrible odds. It is time for YOU, time to blossom into all that you are and all that you can be.

SMW

[ernest88]

That first step is the longest stride...

So..A pity party?? Ever noticed how this board works?? Once a few threads turn they all start to turn..Ya ever noticed that?? Once one pity party starts then it's like one big wave..rolls over the board....

so...you have regrets?? regrets because you did the right thing?? Because you stood for your M when he would not?? No regrets there. You should be proud..you should also know that you handled this with more grace and dignity than most could..

I'm not ready to move to the party that is surviving.

and this?? I just think you insulted my little bit of the 7th level!! What's up wid dat?? I need you over there..you have work to do..I NEED YOU OVER THERE..to show the noobs who will come that ones who were once Noobs(you and me) survive the bullchitt, survive the batchitt crazy, survive the insanity, survive the gambling addicts, OW's/PA"s/MLC's and all the other chittt that these WAS's use as excuses for bailing.....

I know you wanted laughs from me..but I can't deliver for you now..I mourn for your M and the pain you feel. I sit here with tears in my eyes for you and a heavy heart. I know what it takes and how it feels to take the step you took. I know how dark the path is...I can promise you there is a light at the end. The path will get smoother..you will be happy..you will move forward..

you're a strong, funny, snarky..woman...you've brought joy and laughter to many here with your quick wit and humor..there is a purpose for you and I here..and our work is not done..

so Corey..pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move forward..

one step at a time, one foot in front of the other. You're not alone....this is not the end but a new beginning..

Love ya mean it...you need someone to listen then I'll send my number to you via FB..my email address is over there..use it..

[kat727]

Corey, I know that was probably the hardest thing you have ever done but it will lift a huge weight off your shoulders. You have been going around being responsible for yourself and him, and now you have dropped him off.

I know how you feel and really it does get better. Everyone says that for a reason because it is true. I am here for you just like so many of your other friends. Sorry I didn't read this as it was happening, I was actually doing work like I am supposed to!

kat

[Sugar and Spice]

Reading all of your sweet posts made me cry at work today. You guys are so great!

H was here when I got home tonight. He came over to get a Christmas tree for the kids (damage control) and I was cordial, but there is an obvious difference. I feel different. He got a new phone yesterday and hadn't turned off the text alert and of course it was going off and he started to send a text and I said very calmly, "I've asked you before not to do that in front of me. Its incredibly disrespectful." and then I left the room. There was a little talk about the situation, but I avoided as much as possible. I wasn't mean and I wasn't sad, I just simply was. There were a couple of opportunities to drop a truth bomb and I took them. The biggest was me telling him how from my perspective he has chosen her all along. He left to "figure things out, which in reality was "dating" her, he got her pregnant and then had to "get her through it", now its "waiting for the test results." There is ALWAYS an excuse and I don't want to have to hear about "whats next." There were a couple of others, but thats the one that stands out in my mind.

I'm doing pretty good, this is going to be hard but I have no other choice.

[lost_in_space]

(((((S&S)))))

As long as you are good with what you are doing, I am there in your corner. As you know I am not exactly one to be giving advice these days... but I can and will give support. It is the least I can do for a friend.

Take care of you an your k's!