Santa Mom called me this morning while she was shopping for the kids. She asked me about some shoes for D and a toy for S. then she made some more inane convo about her schoolwork. 30 min later she called back to tell me that she was going to stay at the house tonight after work so that she could see the kids before school tomorrow. that will probably give her a kid fix before her weekend.
So I get the pleasure of having her sleep under the same roof tonight.
I suggest that you have your L put together a sweetheart deal for yourself, and get it in front of your wife as soon as possible. Full custody for you, child support FROM her, and a very short-term rehabilitative alimony for her.
It's time to stop being her friend (be friend-LY, but not her friend) and to take care of your interests and those of your kids. There's a reason they put that little "v" in between the parties' names -- sadly or not, it's ADVERSARIAL, and you need to get steeled for it. I have never met a single person -- nor even HEARD of one -- who later regretted that they were TOO firm.
Quite the contrary.
Puppy
I agree with PDT whole heartedly here..go for it all and you will get it..
Santa Mom didn't show last night or this morning. No biggie. Y'all know I like it that way anyway, at least for me.
She just called with the excuse that she didn't have her stuff to get ready for work with her. And that she wanted to hang with the kids tonight before my Mom got there. I told her that was fine; I would just go out for a bit while she was there.
Convo was normal and friendly. She closed by saying, "OK honey, see ya then." I do not like the endearing term right now. Her tone was all lovey like she used to use when things were good. I need to ask her to stop using those terms. don'tcha think?
She closed by saying, "OK honey, see ya then." I do not like the endearing term right now. Her tone was all lovey like she used to use when things were good. I need to ask her to stop using those terms. don'tcha think?
I think when you are fully detached you won't even hear her say it..for now..I'd act "as if" I did not hear it..why give her the satisfaction of knowing you hear it?? JMO
She closed by saying, "OK honey, see ya then." I do not like the endearing term right now. Her tone was all lovey like she used to use when things were good. I need to ask her to stop using those terms. don'tcha think?
I think when you are fully detached you won't even hear her say it..for now..I'd act "as if" I did not hear it..why give her the satisfaction of knowing you hear it?? JMO
Oh, I needed to hear that! Since STBX-H has called a few times this week, I've been getting the 'sweetie/honey' treatment. While I have not responded, it bothered me. Need to detach a little more! Peace.
