aliens undercover: married to the pod

[hoosiermama]

I suppose he does think that. Which is why I printed it out fairly soon. Which is funny, because he continues to claim there is no other relationship.

omg, I hadn't thought of this!!! Do you really suppose he thinks you DON'T have these???

Classic . . .

He did make a reference one day in anger--"are you going to use that against me in court?!" It was said in a mocking manner. I don't know what to think. Every time I make a reference to the affair--not in a challenging, disparaging or otherwise emotion-laden way, but simply as a fact of our lives--he blows up. So I rarely mention it--it's completely non-productive. But yes, it WILL come up in court. My attorney has a copy--he read over it in front of me, definitely wanted to keep it in my file. This is a no-fault state, and my attorney said we wouldn't even be allowed to state OW's name, but that it's a factor in visitation if he's spending a lot of time with OW, and may be an unconscious factor in support because it's proof of why he left. My attorney is also aware that part of the final settlement will address that D will not have to be present with OW through the duration of the school year. That will have to be bilateral--but that's not a problem.

But I think his intense and persistent denial has less to do with support than with his narcissism and fantasy life. He continues to claim that the breakdown of the marriage was my fault, he's done nothing wrong, he's the victim, in fact. And I think he really does believe that, because he's such a golden boy in other areas of his life. It doesn't really matter, tho--I just want to be able to live a normal life, and child/spousal support will be necessary for that.