(((((T))))) I'm looking forward to getting the book. It should be interesting, in any case.
W is angry and resentful. I really and truly can't think of anything that I did that was "that bad". She says I don't support her when she wants to do things, yet she has always had the time and money to do her hobbies, go to school, etc. I haven't always done the best I could with housework. But, still! She complains that she is the main disciplinarian with the kids. If feel like she took that on herself, and won't let go of it, anyway. She reminds me that before we got married she said she didn't want to become the stereotyped domestic housewife. She ways that is what she has become, but it sure doesn't seem that way to me. She has a resentment of men, it goes deep, and I don't know where it came from.
I'm gonna swing hard and fast here, OJ...
I want you to at least be honest with yourself if no one else.
Prior to coming here and learning new things were you generally lazy and submissive?
Yes.
That's not a new disclosure! You've said that already many times in many ways!
Amy, how you talk to Jeff and Frank, are you that way with your H? You have so much good advice but the delivery of the final product is so crude. I wonder if you take your frustrations with your own H out on these other guys. Blunt is great, but you go beyond bluntness. IMO.
Jeff, I'm not always a good cheerleader, you know that. You have made a lot of progess to step up and be the Man of the House. It can't and won't happen in a week or month or even a year when it's taken 20 years to revolve into the sitch it is. You're stretching the rubber band your W has put around your M and put it in her tidy bundle. That's great! But if you push too much at once that rubber band (your W) will snap!
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
