Yes you need to validate her feelings and understand why she feels the way she does. No you don't have to agree with them. If she is in a MLC, She can't deal with her own feelings right now, so she can't even think about yours.
Never argue with her about her feelings. The may not make sense to most, where she is right now, they may not make sense to her, but they are real to her. This is just a way to try to make them disappear.
Don't bring up the D topic. If she does then try your best to keep your cool. Stay calm. Your wife will being watching you for any negative emotions. She will be looking to argue. Try not to fall into this trap. If she wants a D bad enough she knows what she has to do.
The everything is ok attitude is a front, she is hurting, she won't let you see it. You can't possibly think that someone filled with so much selfishness and anger is happy and ok with all of this. She thinks this is going to stop all the mess of emotions that she can't handle. It won't, but you can't tell her that.
Take things a day at a time. Take care of yourself and children. Do your best to be kind, but keep your distance and act like your going on with life. It's very tough, but you can do it.
Trapt,
Was going back through this whole topic and you wrote this several days ago. A lot of it didn't register at the time, but now, after some other back and forths on some other threads, I have to tell you it was one heck of a posting! You really distilled a lot into the essence of what/who I am really looking at now and I think this posting may have been what started to jolt me into getting it. So, if I didn't before, I wanted to thank you for these words...
-AlexEN
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