Unfortunately, when someone is wayward, "I need space" usually just means "I need space in which to conduct my affair, unencumbered and un-frowned-upon.
This has been my gut-feeling about this whole "space" crap all along, Puppy. I've been in denial, but this thought has been in the back of my head the whole time.
I have told my H that I could understand his reasoning if he wasn't involved with either me or the OW, if he was really taking the time to "make a decision". And he's said, "I think I need to get away from both of you for a while." But he's been in no hurry to do that. And I've told him that he has in fact already made his decision. He makes his decision every day.
And at first, he told me that he needed until the end of the year. Now that that is fast approaching, he has extended his timeline to mean some indefinite number of months, and since he is looking for an apartment, I believe he expects me to sit around and wait for him for at least a year (because I don't see any place going month-to-month with him right away, don't most places want you to sign at least a one-year lease?). I don't have the patience for that.
Me: 38 H: 41 M: 12 D12, S10 H began EA: 7/08 H moved out: 9/30/08 Bomb (sleeping with OW): 10/23/08
My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1638048&page=2#Post1638048
