Sorry, I know this thread is for the guys, but this stuck out at me:
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
It seems like most women tell themselves this:
"If I throw him to the curb, he will think that I don't love him anymore"????????....
Boy if I would have known women thought like this when I was single, I would have dated 10 women at a time. I didn't realize that women respond better when you have a few women on the side that when you were faithful.... HMMMMMM
Reminded me of something I read in "For Men Only", which I read before giving to my H.
In the beginning of the book, the author talked about a survey they did with both men and women and discovered this - That most men would rather feel unloved than feel unappreciated and disrespected. On the other side, a large number of women would rather feel unappreciated and disrespected than feel unloved.
This might help to explain why so many women don't take a firm stand against ongoing As. Perhaps some are afraid to lose their Hs because they might wonder, "If I don't hold onto H, who will love me?" It's a crippling mindset and a tough one to overcome. JMO.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
