Well, my wife was always "chubby", but not exactly obese.
I married her like that and I had no issue with it. I never once asked her to change, and in fact, I came to appreciate the curves of a real woman.
She, on the other hand, would complain about her weight and make comments about skinny girls on TV and how she would like to lose weight. I know now she has self-esteem issues.
As she approached 40, she was more serious about her appearance and I was supportive. I even cooked her special meals for nearly a year while she exercised and the weight slowly came off. She went from a size 16-18 to a size 4 in this period and suddenly found herself attractive to other men for the first time in her life.
One thing led to another, she hooked up with an OM from her work, and here I am now. I think it no coincidence that our trouble began once she completed her weight loss.
I admit I am a bit bitter about this fact.
H: 38 W: 36 S: 8 S: 5 M: 16 Bomb: 8/25/08 OM: 9/21/08 EA (Possible PA) with co-worker since 5/08 (at least...) Sep: 9/21/08 D Filed 9/23/08 My Situation
