Whether, what & when to tell kids?

[AlexEN]

Interesting point...

Back when I was pursuing, I made the observation to my wife, who was telling me she didn't believe the changes in me were "real" or would "last" (and which I now realize had nothing to do with whether or not I had or had not changed, but that's a different topic) that one of the things that should give her comfort was that I now knew things that I didn't know before... My point, and I know you were saying it a little bit tongue-in-cheek, but betrayal and the things it causes us to do, really does make us look at ourselves more. So, as usual, your one word answer hits the nail on the head.