Yes, I second the motion that you need to be less available. Less accomadating for him. For a time anyway. He needs to miss you and he never will as long as you still have your cake on the table. Time is on your side. The more time he spends with OW in his current situation, the sooner he is going to miss you.
This is where acting "as if" comes in to play. It is not easy, but it is an investment in healing yourself and allowing him to wonder what would happen to him if you were truly gone.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
