I was reading an article about people that have lost a large amount of weight and how they sort of lose their personality temporarily. It said it can take a while to find it again. I thinking this is something that could also have an effect on my sitch. Anyone have any experience or knowledge on that?
Hi Sam. Saw your message on my thread and thought I'd pop over to give some insight (for what it's worth).
A little background about me: I have struggled with my weight for years, since before I met my H. When I met him, I was at my lowest weight in several years, and was still on my way down. However, in quick order I had two kids, and the weight creeped back up. Then the marriage started to go bad, I got depressed, and the weight REALLY piled on. I am incredibly embarassed to admit this, but at the beginning of this year I was up to 265 pounds. I was an unattractive slob. I vowed to myself to make a serious dent in that weight, or else look into a lapband in 2009. Up until the point my H left the house (9/30), I had only lost 12 pounds.
After he left, I was so distraught I could not eat. I mean, really, I just could NOT physically eat. I would get sick, almost to the point of vomiting. I started losing weight quickly, as you can imagine. That stabilized after a couple of weeks, but I did not really regain my appetite. When he admitted his PA (10/23), it got worse again, back to the feeling sick when I ate. More weight came off.
Now here it is December. I don't get sick when I eat anymore, unless I eat too much. And too much is not THAT much, it's what a "normal" meal used to be for me. And I've only done that once or twice. I have found that my habits have really changed for the better. Even though I COULD eat more, I find that I don't want to and I'm not using food to mask my depression like I used to. I'm not even really that hungry, and food doesn't have the escapist appeal it used to. It's like I was forced to start new eating habits, and now that I could go back to my old ways, I don't want to. So, while I really wish that my H hadn't left me and wasn't having an A, these circumstances forced a change in my lifestyle that I had not been able to do on my own for years.
I am now down to 220. My goal is 210 by the end of the year. From there, I still have 50 to go, but that doesn't seem so daunting anymore.
Okay, now, finally to your question! :-) From my perspective, I don't think that someone who loses a large amount of weight loses their
