H4H,
You are right that she blew me off when we discussed. There has been no real disc on this - my error was not saying it is done more forcefully.

PDT,
Thanks. I agree with everyone.

So here is the text going today:

W, I agree that it has been a while since we talked about cancelling the trip. In my opinion, we will not be going on the trip because you are continuing to see OM and want to leave the marriage. As such, I need to protect our family financially, and going on a trip to Hawaii is not feasible. I haven't said anything since we first talked about canceling because I was hoping you would tell me that you want to work on the marriage and stop all contact with OM.

OK?

LIS

M45
WW 43
D17/S14/D11

ILYB Jan 08
PA Conf Feb 08
OMW / OM contacted
S Jan / 09

No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.