Not dumb...you love her. We alll know this. She is the one that doesn't know a darn thing about love.
Do you like busy family life? I really do. I love the bustling of getting my son off to school. Having him give me a big hug and kiss, and seeing his little legs climb up the bus and go off to school. I love him getting home with his backpack flying and his words flying at me just the same. Eating dinner together, laughing, having to tell him a million times to get back in bed, etc. Love it.
I wouldn't want you to be rude to your wife on the phone. I was just thinking maybe instead of initiating conversation, you just don't. She doesn't with you. All about the kids.
Yes, it's good that she feels what you feel when the kids don't call. She's not reminding them over and over to call YOU. Anyway, you are too busy having fun with them to worry about that. Not your job.
I know you want her to contact you. But, it's probably best if she doesn't right now. If she calls, unless it is to tell you she's done with the OM, she will suck you into a nice conversation which does nothing for you and does EVERYTHING for her. Relieves her guilt, makes it all okay in her mind.
The tree. Christmas. Yes, this will hit her. Be prepared. What are you going to do if she wants to spend it all together....FOR THE KIDS? She will want to cake eat here. What will you do? The kids will love getting the tree with you and decorating it, etc. Make it fun. Maybe do some new traditions. We strung cranberries and popcorn this year...really fun.....got some snow spray for the windows....really fun......decorated the whole house up, greenery on the railings, ribbon, etc. The house looks like someone puked up Christmas all over it...I love it!!!
