Stage 2.25

[istherehope]

Hi Ali,

Aww thanks for the nice words.

I think I might pick up the book for H tonight after work, as I want him to be as involved as possible in the trip planning and such. The sooner he can find things that he is interested in seeing/doing the better.

Oh H has met my ex, but only once. I guess I am still friends with him because we always had a pretty platonic relationship. There wasn't any sexual chemistry, and it was more like we were buddies who shared academic interests. I was an undergrad and he was a PhD student when we met, and mentally we were a perfect fit, but emotionally, physically etc. it just wasn't there. In fact, me being less mature then at 25, I used to complain to my H (as a friend only) that my BF never wanted to have sex with me...So I think H is very much not intimidated knowing the history like he does.

Yeah on the intimacy thing, it's a good idea to try and be around him when he is doing something he enjoys like video game playing. I just hate to be in his space if that is when he wants alone time. I guess I could try to start by showing an interest, and see if he bites. If he does, and wants to share with me, then I could just hang around like you suggested. I guess intimacy can't be pushed, or maybe it can if both people are going to counseling and doing specific exercises, but we aren't to that point yet I guess.

Thanks for checking in Ali!

ITH