It sounds like he was the first one to bring up the possibility of using his benefits to get an address in town. (He says he can do it more than once, just only having one outstanding at a time. I don't know the facts.) I don't think W had talked about living separately for any other purpose that to have that address. Which would suit her just fine..... even better than a separate room! He would have been getting the house for him, so that we could use the address for S14 to get into the school. I told him that I thought it was a bad idea, and he didn't really object. I said that if we needed to buy a place in town, that we could do it without that. Heck, I could easily put a downpayment on credit cards, if I wanted to! (That is absurd, by the way!) W is asleep, as she works tomorrow, but I will mention to her the next time I talk to her that I think S20 using his benefits like that is a bad plan.
But, to get into the school next year, S14 needed to apply before Oct. 1 of this year (that was a couple months of go, in case you don't have your calendar handy) so I think it is a moot point.
I've sort of started to look at the financials, the biggest problem would be that we won't be able to cover as much of the kids college as we had committed to. I don't like that, but it is what it is. And actually, by the time the third one gets there, things might be considerably improved.
I'd love to see changes before going to counseling, but I don't think that is going to happen. I am quite convinced that she thinks she is "right", so she is not going to budge. I think she is going to get a big surprise. And, if I was a betting man, I'd say we will end up D'd. But, since I am not a betting man, I am still here, going to give things my best shot.
I think I have found the jar, I'm still kinda working on getting it out of the cupboard.....
