I agree with Amy M. Your H knows he's stuffing up big time with your D4. Pointing it out to him makes YOU the bad guy in his eyes. Remember, he's comparing OW, who is making him feel like a MAN, feel good and forget his troubles. And he's got you on the otherhand, giving him the guilt trip, reminding him of his faults and his inadequacies as a Dad. Who is he going to choose???
{{{TxMom}}} I know as a Mom, you want to protect your little ones. It's so natural and ingrained that you do it naturally and you will fight with your teeth to not let them get hurt. Could you maybe look at it from another point of view? If you can get H to stay with you for good, wouldn't that be the best thing for your kids? So if the situation now is for you to keep the expectations to yourself and not complain, couldn't you do that in the best interest of D4? I know it's counterintuitive. But I think that's what Amy M and I are saying.
Stay on his good side now. There will be times when you can both work out your issues later. Work smart against OW. Don't be the whining one in this triangle anymore. Let OW be the one whinging about his time, his devotion to D4 and his reluctance to file.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
