A good start will be when you raise the BS flag about son's VA Loan benefit.

I'd start looking at financials after Christmas so you have a realistic picture of life in the event of a separation/divorce.

Hopefully she'll pull her head out of her ass soon.

I know I wouldn't drop so much as a $10 co-pay on counseling unless I saw some changes on the home front beforehand.

That's if I were you, though.

You've gotta make your own path.

Just make sure you have that mason jar with you when you set out.