I don't know what to do! Tonight, H got mad at S17, and basically blew a gasket and told him he had to leave (although he can't enforce it because he doesn't live in the house). S17 has been pushing some limits and giving attitude (not difficult to understand why give the recent history), but H has now said that he is "done" with S17! H states point blank that he wants to think of nobody but himself period! I tried to be understanding, but then he started in with blaming me too, and saying how HE always had to do everything with S17.....and he has said he's not coming over to work on the house as planned this weekend because he doesn't want to be here, so it's like now all the agreements we had and were working on are null and void because he can't take his teenage son being a bonehead!!??? S17 is upset at the whole thing and feels like the minute he steps out of line, his dad is just waiting to "kick him to the curb" (his words).
Part of me thinks I should just give say enough alread and file for D. Give H what he supposedly wants and let the chips fall where they may (we'd have to sell dream house, etc....) Sometimes I feel like that is the only thing that may have an effect on H.
On the other hand, I'm hoping this is just a "meltdown" (and he's entitled to one after all the ones I've had), so I should just be understanding and let it slide and treat tomorrow as another day with PMA!
I did call to ask if he was still going to MC tomorrow, and he said "probably", so I asked, half jokingly, if I should prepare myself for major upheval, and he said I shouldn't ask him that. So, I don't know what to think!
I'm feeling a little stronger as each day passes, and I didn't cry or anything during this whole episode! I actually felt pretty detatched.
But I am wondering if I am just a schmuck.....any ideas?
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
I don't know what to do! Tonight, H got mad at S17, and basically blew a gasket and told him he had to leave (although he can't enforce it because he doesn't live in the house). S17 has been pushing some limits and giving attitude (not difficult to understand why give the recent history), but H has now said that he is "done" with S17! H states point blank that he wants to think of nobody but himself period! I tried to be understanding, but then he started in with blaming me too, and saying how HE always had to do everything with S17.....and he has said he's not coming over to work on the house as planned this weekend because he doesn't want to be here, so it's like now all the agreements we had and were working on are null and void because he can't take his teenage son being a bonehead!!??? S17 is upset at the whole thing and feels like the minute he steps out of line, his dad is just waiting to "kick him to the curb" (his words). 
