It's Tx Mom.. 2nd thread.. trying to hold on...

[TxMomw/2girls]

JWM - you have to elaborate... not sure how i'd play his non-verbal ques to my advantage... although LE had good suggestion to acknowledge it and show my concern.

I don't think I'll get papers b/c I asked him that .. but he could tell me he is going to file soon or something to that effect.

I think I'm going to be prepared to not answer anything.. acknowledge his request and anything that I'm unsure of I'll just say " can I get back to you on that, or I'll think about that" .. my H isn't controling so letting him feel in control and me just a pleasant listener and not overly communicative will be 180.. I would normally ask a lot of questions or make a bigger converstation out of nothing... talk less listen more...

I want to bring up our 4 yr old... she had a melt down today when he left... she is feeling so insecure and crying all the time when he leaves... so hard for me to understand that he must have been that miserable to not come back and try when his 4 yr old is calling him and hanging on him.. I know this eats at him and is what makes him cry...he cried thanksgiving night when she started crying then too... I know DB says not to go there but I think for my H if I go there some in regards to the kids it makes him have to feel and acknowledge what he has done.... he is a stuffer and pushes these tough feelings down when not confronted with it he can turn it off .... I'm going to ask my C tomorrow about this.

thanks everyone...