Hi everyone! Sorry for being gone so long! My family and I left for Oklahoma last Tuesday night and got back very late Sunday. I stayed home from work on Monday to help my parents clean out the RV and I was pretty busy at work yesterday and today catching up on stuff.
The trip was fantastic! We had such a great time. I am so glad that we went.
H made no contact to D16 on Thanksgiving. H's mom didn't contact her either. Like mother like son huh? I was pretty disappointed. Not sure if I told all of you that his cell phone got shut off. So even if he did at least call her from OW phone I would have accepted the call so that he could talk to her. But I guess not. Then I found out he went to Colorado with OW AGAIN! He has no money but flies to Colorado?? Unbelievable. From what I found out, OW mother bought him the ticket to go with her. Wow...pretty sad if you ask me.
I got an email Monday morning from H. He asked about D16 and told me the only way to reach him was by email since his cell got shut off, his cable and internet was shut off, and he had no car because it got repossessed. So basically he would rather live like that with OW than with his family. I just shake my head.
If I do nothing with the D, it will be dismissed on Jan 2nd. I have been thinking about this a great deal and the way I have been feeling lately I think it would be best to just let go. A man who cannot take care of himself let alone his kids is not a man at all. He has hurt me more than once. He shows no remorse. He makes no effort to reach out to his D16. He shows no signs of change. It's just not worth it to me. I have met some really great people lately that have shown me that there are good people out there. Good men out there who will treat me with respect and courtesy and dignity. My H milked me to the end and took everything away from me leaving me in one of the worst positions a person can be in.
IDK girls....just me thinking I guess.....
I see everyone is doing well and hanging in there. That is all that we can do right? Take care of ourselves and our children.
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
