First there was the disrespectful and self-serving response to your letter, then she dissed you over the holiday by sleeping on the couch, she can't even muster up the decency to tell you the bedroom looks nice and then she compared your new comforter to your shoes. What an ice princess.
Far be it for her to feel a little butterfly and think you might have wanted to woo her crotchety ass with the new bedding.
Then she does the thing with your son.
And doesn't even respect you enough to speak with you personally regarding separate residences.
What good is counseling gonna do come the first of the year if she gets her Plan B started behind your back (or is it Plan A)?
You can do the this placating thing til donkeys fly but I'm afraid ain't nothing gonna change til you rattle the foundation of her ivory tower.
Of course, that's just my opinion and I've been giving 'em out unsolicited all day...