I saw her looking at men's watches on the internet last night. I NEVER wear a watch. I know she's talked about getting S20 a watch, but he NEVER wears one either.
So of course I'm thinking she's going to send a gift to OM or maybe a new OM she's interested in. Who the F knows?
Not you, so quit it already. This is exactly what I was just talking about!! Do you think she can't sense on some level that you are constantly freaking out? She can't look at watches on the internet while Christmas shopping??? Maybe...maybe she would really like a watch...but instead of saying that she's looking at one for S20 even though deep down she'd like a watch. Women do that all the time. Maybe not. The point is it is a waste of bandwidth to be talking about it.
Hey Break. Yes, I think about other things. I have invested a lot because I have a LOT invested.
Does it consume my every thought? No. Lately it has because I feel myself becoming the WAS. Can't help that.
GAL activities are hard. I really have no friends here. I do get out by myself sometimes. I don't want to get involved in anything because I'll be moving soon and don't want to get started on something and quit in a couple months.
But I hear what you're saying.
And to answer your questions. Ohio State and the Steelers. Peter Frampton. And I'd love to be an Oak tree
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
I was trying to point out that it seemed you were just getting consumed, and that was just hurting you and actually moving you away from your goals.
I didn't mean go away. See, if you'd read the directions I said THREE posts. Ohio State Are you kidding me?
Where'd you see Peter Frampton? I remember my brother going to see Peter Frampton at one of those big stadium jams back in the 70's...and just last summer, he was playing at a free concert in my city. It made me laugh a little. Like when they use 80's pop songs for commercials now instead of 60's pop songs. Makes me feel...old. waaah.
See how this works?
I read your other post about it being hard because you don't have a lot of friends in the area...that's hard buddy. I know. So my three post post was about trying to have a little convo about some other things...lighten up a little more.
All you can do is lay out your own personal boundaries, and let them know that whatever they decide, you will then base YOUR decisions on THEIR decision.
Hey Puppy, that's good stuff...
I have to cut-and-paste that into my reminder list...
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I hope you are doing alright as well. We are here when you need us....always!!! I understand how talking on here helps clear the head sometimes and also helps you not say things to W that you don't want to. ((((hope)))))
It's amazing how up and down she is. Last night she was fine. We talked about her day, talked about Christmas gifts, talked about my day, talked about the kids. Just talked.
My work Christmas party is tomorrow. We'd discussed it a number of times, but W never said out right if she was going or not. She knows a couple people who work for me know of her affair (my admin was telling me she was sleeping with OM for MONTHS before I figured it out. How's that for blind?).
So I said "are you going to my Christmas party?" She replied "I don't know, when is it"? Now she knows, we've talked about it a number of times. So I said "Friday". She made some noise like she didn't remember. She said "I don't know". I replied, "It's your choice, but I would like for you to come with me". She never said "yes, I'll go", but after I told her I'd like her to come she was in an even better mood than before. And she started talking implying she was going.
So what is it with her. She did the same thing with going to my mom's Sunday. Does she just need to feel in control of everything, or is this an issue with her, that in the past, I just assumed she would go and never asked her?
And oh great. She told me last night that she might be going out to dinner with EGF tonight. She said, "I've only seen EGF once since I moved buildings two weeks ago". She just won't let the twit go will she? Heck, maybe it being almost two weeks since she's been in her office and around EGF is why the last couple days she's been better.
Who knows?
Talk to you TOMORROW.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
Do you think she can't sense on some level that you are constantly freaking out? She can't look at watches on the internet while Christmas shopping??? Maybe...maybe she would really like a watch...but instead of saying that she's looking at one for S20 even though deep down she'd like a watch. Women do that all the time. Maybe not. The point is it is a waste of bandwidth to be talking about it.
