Indulging my stylish side....

[sage]

ooo, curious how you asked him for a date, i am wanting to do that, and i really don't remember HOW!!!!

kitti

Kitti -- well..."date night" is not uncommon for us anymore so I'm not sure I'd recommend the approach that I used for your "first request" to your h. In other words (yes, sage, please restate that ultra-confusing statment!) -- I just said "Is it too soon for me to ask you out on a date for Thursday night? Or would you rather see how you feel about school first?"

My suggestions for you would be much more subtle...

I would start with bringing the date HOME -- rent a video that you think you'd both like...say something like "I was going to watch video XYZ, would you like to watch it with me?". If he says "yes" -- very cool. If he says "no" -- and this is VERY important -- WATCH IT BY YOURSELF.

You could also buy something special for dinner one night (don't go crazy...just something out of the ordinary -- a nicer pasta, takeout from a restaurant, whatever) and say "I was having a craving for XYZ." Then it's kind of like a date he doesn't even know he's on!

Tell him "I'm going for a walk ...would you like to come with me?" -- same idea as the video -- go anyway no matter what he says.

Then....when you've got a video or two under your belt....ask him out to the movies or dinner... something like "I was interested in seeing movie XYZ -- would you like to go with me?" -- if he says yes, you'll need a babysitter, right? If he says NO -- make arrangements to go by yourself or with a friend.

Judging from your recent posts...I think your h will accept an invite soon...

Sage