But also non-cuss words are also verbal abuse and I feel more hurtfull because they carry more meaning then a cuss-word. For example cheap ass, stupid, why do u ask such stupid questions as where F U is just something that is blurted out instead of thought out and instead of being meant to mean something.
I agree that non-cuss words can be very hurtful and I would be hurt by the phrases you specified. Does your W say those things to you? Have you told her how you feel about her saying those things to you?
Do you think your W lost interest in you, or is it the arguing that got to her? Did she ever give you the ILYBINILWY?
I don't know anything about how the green card system works. Does your W have to show that you were abusive to her in order to keep a green card after divorce?
Yes, I do understand it would be upsetting to be making the changes you thought your W wanted and her seeming not to care or notice. Is that what's happening?
Re: dealing with anger. My H and I are both reading a book called "Love without Hurt" by Steven Stosny. (It was previously published under the title "You don't have to take it anymore") It has been really helpful.
You might want to start a thread in the Newcomers section to start with because there are a lot more people who post there.
