Alex, When my H found out that our D15 knew he was not a happy camper. H kept asking how could "you" do this. I said I did not do anything -- you did this. I also told my Ds and my SIL that yes there were issues in the marriage and yes I take responsibility for my part, but they were workable and that my H did not want to work on a 21 year M because of the A. H was shocked that I revealed his A. Usually I try to keep everything private and it was a 180 for me. If your W is asking for a D and tells the kids then yes tell them why. She will tell them that you are an a.. but that is to cover for her discretions. Say to your kids yes we made mistakes but I believe in my M and want to work it out. Then she will have to deal with your honesty.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
