Your H is so confusing, but I'm so glad he's having the IC and listening to her, and learning a bit about himself. One thing you said about him not being able to make a decision and it leaving you in libo struck me. IMHO, I think it's really important to try and make a decision for yourself, and not be swayed by what he wants. I struggle with it myself a lot of the time, but in the end YOU decide what you want.
Personally, I think your sitch has such a lot of hope in it (in spite of the amount of confusion H has, and the difficult limbo it leaves you in). I hope H sorts himself out (and sees the preposterousness of the MOW situation) sooner rather than later.
