Somberbrow said something that made me remember something that my DB coach said to me. I have no idea whether she was talking about all situations or just mine, but I will share it.
I asked her about marriage counseling and she told me it was a great idea during the right stage . She said H and I are in Stage 1 (she was not referring to stages of MLC, but stages of reconciliaton). Stage 1 is about creating a neutral, guilt-free safe zone that has no R talk. Stage 2 is friendship, still no R talk. Stage 3 is romantic/dating friendship. It is only during Stage 3, and maybe not then that the couple should enter MC.
I do not mean to say that she is absolutely right and that anyone on this board going to MC with a WAS during any other stage is wrong or making a mistake. Rather, this was her opinion and it made me feel better because there is no way my H would even consider MC right now.
So, take it for what it is worth. I hope I have not made things more difficult for you, just wanted to give you that thought.
