dealing with infidelity after R

[garyjlost]

Hey, Scotsman.

You said:
"Your wife needs to know that, whilst you want her back and are willing to work on all your issues, no contact is non negotiable for you and you will not enter a phoney R phase whilst she is in any contact with him."

This helps. You're right. It would be a phony R until she agrees to no contact with the OM.

Thanks.