Quoting jethro: Can I assume your parents are D'd, and thus you have fears of abandonment, and need to control your environment since you had no control when you were younger? This is my personal dynamic.
jethro --
Parents divorced after a decade of sitting us down every single year and telling us that they were getting a divorce...(that's why one of my hotbuttons is when people get their kids involved when they themselves aren't sure what's going on!)...they'd go thru a few weeks of making selling house, etc, arrangements and then change their minds...
the divorce was super, duper ugly. dad had ow, mom paraded the entire divorce proceedings in front of us, dad and mom had "anti-custody" battles ("I don't want them, you take them", "well, I don't want them either"). Mom had a nervous breakdown. she checked herself into the hospital after threatening my sister and me with a knife one night. Dad was too busy hanging out with ow to come over when I called him.
Ah, well, more than you wanted to know...but a good reminder for me that I've come a long way, baby!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
