Opt-I think you are right in that H needs to take the lead on things, including physical intimacy. I was actually hoping for emotional intimacy, as you mentioned in your own thread, the talking about feelings, hopes, dreams etc. That's what we are missing at the moment, and what H said he had really wanted. Maybe physical intimacy helps with that, but I can't do much there beyond being very receptive to H when he instigates ML talk. I agree that small gestures are good. I make sure to be right against him in bed when we are sleeping, and lately he's been receptive to this, even moving closer to me of his own accord.
Jen, I love the idea of getting the LL book. Maybe I'll order it at Amazon tomorrow. It's definitely not to be shared with H at this point, but hopefully I can learn enough from it on my own! This is a fantastic idea.
Thanks again to both of you. I'm on my way home now from a team event, and am hoping to have at least an hour of quality time with H when I get back.
Will post later tonight or tomorrow. Fingers crossed I have something very good like ML to post about...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
