I think the bigger question might be why do feel such a deep need for her validation, Frank?
I know that appreciation expressed is nice but why do you SO need it from HER?
Think about it.
It isn't that I need it from her, it's that if she were to start to truly appreciate what I do / have done that would be a possible step for her to see that we can make this work.
>>>> INSERT BS FLAG HERE <<<< because that statement is not accurate. Your neediness is in direct correlation to your lack of self-esteem. Sorry. But it needed to be said and you need to address it and overcome it.
Let's face it, I'm having trouble accepting that after all the years together she is just done. Last night when we had this exchange she said that she's "Learning how to communicate with me as a co-parent". She has decided in her heart that there is nothing left and I am not past the grieving, to acceptance.
I guess some people take longer than others. I'm one of them.
So, please help me accept this is the way it is.
I'm not sure what you're asking with that last statement but ok.
Everything takes time. Especially this. And it's harder around holidays.
I think that IS what everyone has been doing for you, Frank.
Trying to get you to ACCEPT
No one has been blowing smoke up your ass.
Not even me when I try to make you understand how she might feel sometimes.
I can quit doing that, though.
To hell with it.
Become bitter and jaded.
If that's what it takes to get you through then so be it.
