MMF, Sorry I checked out for so long, I needed some real ALONE-ALONE-ALONE time. I think you know why.
Ok, this is a little humbling, but I was totally in the Band-aid mode for a while early this fall. (How self centered I was.) Fortunately, it FINALLY became obvious to me.
Newsflash to self...... Wait for the sign.
Dude, you TOTALLY don't sound self serving. In fact, judging from all the people I've ever known, you rate last in that category. I didn't know Mother Theresa.
Anyway, life is what it is, WE are what WE are, and it is admirable to STOP and take the high road when we realize that we are starting down the wrong path.
One of the ladies I dated was of the "quick attachment" type-person, and I still feel bad, but I was in no shape to continue in that vein at all!
I've met several other interesting ladies since, but I'm not ready, I'm waiting, and I'm pushing off the friends who are circling with their "friends."
My luck, when I'm ready, none of my "friends-friends" will be available! Hahahaha, whatever. It is what it is.
What a test of faith.
One last thing,
You are an inspiration to myself and others.
It matters.
Thanks.
Best,
Punkt
Last edited by Punktmann; 12/03/0804:48 AM.
These are my friends now!
But someday baby... You ain't worry my life anymore
Take away, take away what I don't need, save the good part please. Fade away, fade away.
Punkt, you have to know that I am in no way a Mother Theresa or anyone else that is more sacrificial. I make a lot of mistakes and I know many people that can attest to that fact. I do want to do better though.
I appreciate what you said about being inspirational but if you only knew
Have a good one and keep in touch.
mmf
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
Looking for a friend today and found exactly what I needed !
You really are an inspiration to myself and others...!!! (well said Punkt ! )
I do wish I had your strength, today I am lacking...I have been for a few days..crying again, feeling the pain and wondering why this all happened. Of course there are no answers, you and I know that, but somedays are just that bit harder...
Take care sweety ! And have a great day !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Hi Cinders! You are very very sweet. I have the same kind of days you do. I admit that I am tired of being alone. And then I remember that I have my kids and Him. But it does get challenging when you want to be in a serious relationship and the one that you wanted to spend the rest of your life is elsewhere. Patience. I need to learn patience.
I will be running over to your thread. I was reading it earlier today and work got in the way. Whats up with that? LOL!
TTYL,
mmf
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
MMF, sorry bro, that was meant to be tongue firmly lodged in cheek.
Anyway, you seem pretty unflappably calm and forgiving. That's all.
Wish I was there too.
I know, appearances and all, but still, it's helpful to some of us who aren't so good at forgiveness to hear about a better, calmer interaction/situation.
I'm getting there quicker than I thought, but slower than I'd like.
Best to you and your's this Christmas.
Punkt
These are my friends now!
But someday baby... You ain't worry my life anymore
Take away, take away what I don't need, save the good part please. Fade away, fade away.
MMF, sorry bro, that was meant to be tongue firmly lodged in cheek.
Anyway, you seem pretty unflappably calm and forgiving. That's all.
Wish I was there too.
I know, appearances and all, but still, it's helpful to some of us who aren't so good at forgiveness to hear about a better, calmer interaction/situation.
I'm getting there quicker than I thought, but slower than I'd like.
Best to you and your's this Christmas.
Punkt
These are my friends now!
But someday baby... You ain't worry my life anymore
Take away, take away what I don't need, save the good part please. Fade away, fade away.
Mishka, Punk, PH, Cinders and others, I miss you guys. I needed some time away and trying to decide what I want to do with my life. I hope you are not disappointed in my self imposed solitary confinement. I just need to re-evaluate what I need to do.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God