Quoting Sage: "My H. has been telling me this all along -- that I never seemed happy (and how could I be? Wasn't something terrible going to happen?); that he couldn't live up to my expectations"
my H said this exact thing to me too. Many times!! What does it mean? That I was unhappy? expected too much? didnt speak his love language? Or is / was it an excuse to pursue the OW? How did you answer this Sage? I would like to know more about your earlier sitch- good synopsis someplace?
Also, the teamwork of you and your H doing yard work- we did that last weekend. It DID feel great! More of that is good therapy for us too!
