aliens undercover: married to the pod

[hoosiermama]

Yep, the program addressed so many needs at once, in a positive way that was fun. One of those things that you realize more people need to have available.

You know, I have no idea what his "spin" was. I know a couple folks who were initially very supportive, who subsequently disappeared. I never tried to get people to "take sides," but in the first week I truly believed (foolishly, as it turns out) that our friends would do something of an "intervention" and confront H on his out-of-character behavior. In fact, I had no doubt that they'd help him come to his senses. However, I was very wrong--the few that I told had no intention of confronting him. I was really shocked at the time, felt the sand sliding out from under my feet because my foundation was not what I thought it was. I mean, we even had a part in our wedding vows, because we so valued our community, in which our guests promised to support each of us and the marriage. You know, that "marriage isn't just between the two of you, isn't even just between the two of you and God--you're part of a larger community." I didn't have that part in there as a nice little add-on; these kinds of things were far more important to me than the colors of my bridesmaids' dresses or what kind of shoes I'd wear. Silly me.

I suppose it is possible that he has messed with my email. I know that everything that I copied related to his emails with OW, and my emails with her, disappeared. I changed my password a few times, but it never "stuck." There are a few folks who have remained my friends, and I have never been aware of missing messages from them--I suppose he could choose who he wanted me to hear from, but then there are a couple of folks I'm sure he'd have preferred me not to remain in touch with. I just don't know.