found tidbits of priceless information in your second thread
Quote: Not to be melodramatic or delve too much into my past but DB'ing has slowed me down enough to see what I've brought to the table in terms of messing up my M. Not listening totally, controlling H. and now, it's becoming pretty clear, NOT appreciating his love for me for what it is -- a gift. How many times have I doubted him? How many times have I "dropped the other shoe" so that he couldn't do it first? My H. has been telling me this all along -- that I never seemed happy (and how could I be? Wasn't something terrible going to happen?); that he couldn't live up to my expectations, etc.
oh my gosh woman, i could have written this myself. i haven't thought of hubby's love as a "gift" - up until this precise moment i always thought of it as something i DESERVED - for putting up with all of his sh** - hehe - thanks for this gem sage
i wanted to also let you know how much the notes you jotted down after your telephone consultation with laurie was PHENOM - there is a wealth of information there
i loved the part about you figuring out the whole "friend" issue - something i need to put more into practice
Quote: Of course it is EXACTLY this thought process that led me down the "exploding conversation with body parts everywhere" path so I'm trying very hard to manage my anxiety
this one gave me a chuckle, thanks!!!
never been one to look into horoscopes but your little tirade (with others joining) made me take a gander - what a boost!!!!
whew - that took over an hour, but really worth the read. i find so many similarities in our sitch, except that you two seemed like sex was introduced very quickly - that is an area i am still trying to deal with. i want it, he doesn't seem to
