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[Livin4ME]

Cat,
I agree with Oldtimer on this one. It really sucks and it's hard to do, but it's all you can do.
Just the best mom YOU can be to your kids. In the end, when your kids are old enough, they will see everything for what it is or was and make their own decisions.
Just do what you can about YOU. Love your kids. Be there for your kids. Listen to them. But unless your children are being harmed, there's nothing you can do about it other than being there for them.
I know it's hard, my sitch is similar in some ways. I've felt like my kids are the only things I can control in this sitch because I'm their mother, and STBX is trying to take that control from me. But I know they are safe when they're with him. And whatever emotional damage he is doing to them, I will have to help my kids with later. But I can only be their mother, and make the best decisions I can for them when they're with me. I can't be their father. And honestly, the more I fight with STBX on anything regarding the kids, the more he uses it to control ME.
So I love them. I'm here for them. And when they get older and see that their Superman is not so Super...I'll be here for them and pick them up and help them heal.
It's hard Cat, but you can do it. :-) (((((hugs)))))