My H will bite his lip and can't stand still or wants to walk away when he is uncomfortable... he does it all the time .. and won't make eye contact...
So you can pick up on this cue, how can you use it to your advantage? If you acknowledge that H is uncomfortable, and he is, then he knows you are concerned about him.
Originally Posted By: TxMom
I never thought of just recognizing his request and telling him I'll get back to you on that... I usually would answer or give my opinion....
Good chance to 180 here and show H you respect his requests and want to give it a sincere answer. Also, keeps you from taking the bait or getting emotional within the situation. Removes H's ability to control. If that is new ground for him, that is a good place for you. Show's H that TxMom has changed and it isn't business as usual.
Originally Posted By: TxMom
I also am in that place of wanting answers from him....
No expectations here! You've done this in the past, and it didn't work!
Prepare for the worst and hope for the best! If he brings you D papers, he is expecting you to get emotional and break down. If you don't and are just pleasant and cut the meeting short, what is he going to think? Don't get mad, or cry, just say something like "I'm sorry that you think this is the answer, I disagree, but I will give you what you want." Look at what is going on with me. W filed in August and last week postponed it! Just because D has been filed doesn't mean as much as when D is final!
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
