Guys I just got back. It was pretty bad. The good news which really is good is that H didn't have any arguments wanting the kids so I guess will leave it at the one night a week and 2 hours on Tuesday. That is cool!
The judge was late so the 2 attorneys figured out stuff ahead of time. I will have about $800 less than I need to live on. H is declaring bankruptcy and I have to file with him jointly. My L is going to try to have him make the car payment for my agreement for that. That would help out some of the $800. It just so irritates me that he's been putting everything on credit card this past year and so the judge thinks he's poor H even though he makes almost $90,000 a year. H is still going out and spending $50 a pop at restaurants or movies almost every day though. He hasn't changed his standard of living at all. His girlfriend's house is way nicer than mine (according to the kids). I live in a broken-down house with no heat and no restaurants and no additional spending other than bills and food. What did he do with the cash from paying everything on credit card? My L brought out that he was involved in an adulterous affair, and the Judge said that doesn't matter (legally by the statute) but he will consider it anyway. I think the L said I had about $375 a month for rent now! So don't know what will happen.
H is going to put the house into foreclosure so I guess I have 2 months or so to move out before they repossess it or whatever.
Funny stuff to me anyway is that there was a woman there in the waiting room with H and I and I guess b/c I'm friendly with H she thought we were married, so I walked in on the tail end of her telling H how pretty I looked in my purple dress. I wonder what he was saying to that. My L said he's so ugly and horrible personality and I'm so much more attractive, she can't understand why I stayed with him. I'm asking that myself now!!!
When we first got there H was looking at me all nasty and wouldn't talk to me. I did a quick prayer, and I felt led to ask him if he wanted to borrow the prayer book I had brought with me. He said no, since I want the L's to handle everything, he basically doesn't want to talk to me. I continued to be nice and friendly to him and everyone; I'll try to just ignore him politely from now on though I guess?
Oh, H had told me at the start of this year, he wanted to live with OW so he could spend time with the kids and OW. My lawyer brought that up and he said he never said that!!! He's such a liar!!! Karen
