Hi TxMom, the DB counselor said to be prepared if H's say they "want to talk", she said bring a notebook, they say write it down which might unnerve H, make no real comments and then MOVE ON. Tell them I hear you and then change subject to kids whatever. The Hs will probably want to obesess about the D because it is all part of the drama but try not to fall into it. I know I had difficulty with this advice but if it happens this is what I am going to try to do because it is totally opposite for what my H would expect. Also if H brings up D, say to him in a kidding manner "wow what a nice time of year to bring this up or something joking like I know who is getting coal in their stocking" and maybe it will impact H that wow this is pretty lousy to do right now.
The DB counselor said what you want to do is listen to what they say but continue to delay as long as possible. The longer you delay, there might be a change of heart on their part. Also OW will not like if H starts to push off the talk about D.
Keep us posted. You know we are rooting for you.
Also T2L is having problems with her computer and can't log on. Hopefully will be fixed by weeks' end.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
