My vote is for another Jody session... See what her suggestions are as to how to approach your interactions over the trip. She has such insight! Your H has made a huge committment by going on this trip with you... I am sure he does feel nervous- as they all seem to do. Go forward then back off.
He didn't have to go on trip with you. He made the choice to. I am guessing if you keep pestering him about whether he actually wants to be there or not he will start to get angry and back off more. Assume he said yes because he wants to be with you, and is acting weird because he is afraid of falling in love again.
I don't know what to tell you about how to get back the physical intimacy in your relationship. I know from my sitch that if I push at the wrong time it is rejected and then I fall apart. It sounds like your H is similar right now... He needs to take the lead. But perhaps he is afraid to reach out as well. How about just holding his hand in bed as you fall asleep? Non-threatening but still a connection.
You've come really far. Remember with this trip and the next few weeks to try to let your H take the lead (especially if he thinks that you are the controller/decision maker). You started the plans, let him finish them... If that is possible of course.
I'll check on you later... Heading over to post on my thread...
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
