No, the changes in itself are not bothering me, especially the video games thing. I never was that much into it as she was, but I did enjoy playing every once in a while. And about tv, we were watching 2 or 3 shows a week, so it's not like we were couch potatoes or anything. I did enjoy those times though and talking about it. Actually, I love most of the changes! I have always told her I wanted to get out more often. I wanted to do things with her other than stay inside.
What's bothering me is that now that she FINALLY WANTS to do that kind of stuff, she doesn't seem to want to do it with me!! These are things I have told her would make her feel better about herself. I have told her these for a long time. I have tried to increase her self-esteem for years by complimenting her a lot (when I was depressed I probably did not do this as often though). And now that she has better confidence, she decides that she's not in love with me anymore? How am I supposed to feel about that!!?? It seems like she's keeping herself very busy and I think that is keeping her thoughts away from thinking about our sitch and where it's going.
So, now that I talked myself back into negative patterns again, I have to remind myself of the positives: whenever we get together we always have a good time, no arguing, we have fun together, she has not mentioned a D at all since this all started, always saying that she wants to work on getting back together, says that she's trying to get her feelings back (and her actions do confirm that most of the time).
I would also appreciate a woman's perspective on this!
