Whether, what & when to tell kids?

[AlexEN]

Can any of the veterans point me to threads that discuss this topic?

I was at support group meeting last night and, to my surprise, virtually all of the people there who had experienced infidelity on the part of their spouses and who were still under the same roof had told, even their young children, about the affairs.

I'd been told that the children should be protected from this type of information and that the burden of this knowledge would do more harm than good.

Any strong opinions out there one way or the other?

Thanks...